birthday check in: so how was being 24?

another year has gone by. there have been ups and downs, but i have to say it has been a really good one.

first of all, quick update on the last birthday: i decided to bake my own cake and had a blast with it! It was a three-tier carrot cake and nardos did a lot of heavy lifting there. Just a few days later, i found out that sneaky nardos and joe had planned a whole surprise birthday party/dinner for me, complete with a second carrot cake and a bottle of a certain young lady’s favourite “elephant-juice”. so wonderful!

the three tier cake in the making
05/01/2021 the Claire’s cake with a wonderfully hilarious message on it
birthday drinks at Geronimo on the actual day of my birthday

A lot of my life has changed over the last 12 months. i have met incredible people and made great strides, both professionally and personally. i did a whole “happy girl summer” thing last summer where i met some lovely people, had plans with friends on most weekends, visited people, and i just let myself enjoy the warm weather.

09/18/2021 Alison Joy and I at Silin’s wedding! Alison Joy & Julie were the co-maids of honour

i went to two weddings over the summer and i was the maid-of-honour at the first one. I definitely cried watching my high school and college friend walk down the aisle. congratulations to both Mrs Sarah Birdsall and Mrs Silin Li!

08/14/2021 Sarah’s wedding!!
08/14/2021 Arundel girls at the Bella Sera in Palestine, TX here for the one and only Sarah❤️❤️

i have also accumulated at least five burn scars from cooking/baking over the last year. Most are quite small, but the largest and oldest is about two and a half inches long and one inch wide – i’m quite fond of it. i baked lots of yummy things, from my first somewhat round batch of cookies, to nardos’ favourite, the pumpkin loaf, to most recently (this week actually!) my own favourite, the banana cake. speaking of the kitchen, i completed my vegetarian challenge, and had my first piece of chicken in a year on december 1 at bbq chicken on whitney ave.

i travelled to Zimbabwe for the first time since the pandemic began and i spent all of five and a half weeks weeks there. It was the first time my siblings and i had been in the same place since my brother’s wedding in 2018, and this time we had 3 new children in the family, with a second child on the way for my brother and his wife (and that baby is due in the next few days!).

12/26/2021 my favourite part is the closed eyes 😂. can you spot where the soon-to-be-borbaby is?
12/26/2021 sekuru peace with the babies
12/18/2021 everyone at mbuya kwinjo
(sadly i hadn’t arrived in zim yet)

i spent a few days with one of my absolute best friends and sister, Matida, who had recently gotten married! A whole Mrs now! I had not seen her in three years so it was such a blessing to just be in the same place with her, to share with each other in person how our lives were transforming and how God was just showing up for us!

01/27/2022 my favourite and i
10/23/2021 “Let all that you do be done in love”. So sad i couldn’t attend the wedding, but congratulations my love!

i also spent time with old friends at Lomagundi College, and sadly ended up attending a funeral service while there as one of the founding members of the school passed away. Lomagundi is a particularly important school in our family. my personal link to the school is that i tutored at Lomagundi back in 2016 in the time between finishing high school and starting college. i made some great friends while there and i continue to enjoy visiting them whenever i get the chance.

01/26/2022 a flower arrangement from Jack’s funeral. these are flame lilies, the national flower of Zimbabwe.

work-wise, i moved from my job as a research assistant at the Yale Child Study Center to a job (again) as a research assistant/Tobin Pre-Doctoral Fellow at the Yale School of Management working for the accounting group.

07/20/2021 my last lab meeting in the Stover Lab at the Yale Child Study Center

i quickly learned that accounting research is something that appeals to me so much so that i applied to three Ph.D. programs in the field and was admitted into two of them. i am very excited and blessed to say that i will be moving to Philadelphia in the late summer to begin my Ph.D. in Accounting at Wharton, the Business School at the University of Pennsylvania. i feel very undeserving and humbled in many ways, and o continue to see the hand of God in the path that Love has carved for me.

my actual move has nothing to do with espn… this is just the first thing that popped up when i googled “yale upenn”

i have made really great friends with the other pre-docs i work with. Going into the office and seeing these faces on most days of the week has been so much fun. my bosses are also pretty incredible and i am saddened to be leaving in a few months.

12/10/2021 post secret-santa gift exchange w long live the kwin, notorious yin, josé bosé, medium rareric, and party arty

this last year i have also been confronted with and continue to work through many insecurities, again both professionally and personally, but i think through it all God is teaching me to run the race in front of me, to run my own race and trust God to land my feet on solid ground with each and every step. i really am growing more comfortable in my own skin and learning to acknowledge these insecurities but not let them hinder me from doing what i want to do or being where i need to be. i know this verse is largely referring to enduring in the faith but really i have found God encouraging me to keep on with the things in my life in general and i trust God to continue on with me as i conclude my 25th year and start year #26.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.

Hebrews 12:1-3 NIV

year 25 has been great! i have laughed a lot, i have loved a lot, and i been loved so much by people very dear to my heart. i have grown more into my own skin, and i look forward continuing the journey of discovering who God has fashioned me to be. a LOT more has happened this year but i just can’t write it all here without making this post insufferably long. i will, however, do my regular shout outs to people. some names may be surprising to find here, but i have learned never to look back with regret at times/people in my life that in the season made me happy/smile! i’ll do slightly extended shout outs for a few people who have been constants in my daily life in the last year, so here we go:

first of all, shout out to Nardos, my best friend whom i have found home in. i am very deeply saddened that we will be going separate ways this year, but i know the distance will not dissolve our friendship. shout out to Phyllis – i know that regardless of where we go in life, even if we one day grow apart, you are someone i would quickly drop what i’m doing and show up for. you’re my sister. shout out to Joe – you are someone i have admired for a very long time and i wish so much joy for you in your life. your friendship over the years, especially the last two years has been very meaningful to me.

02/20/2022 trip to the mall with people i love, the three who have been most constant in my life these last few years
09/24/2021 oysters and friends! could we be any fancier 😝 (p.s. no, we were not in new zealand – just good old new york)

shout out to Theresa. girl. what a friend. we have been up, and man we have been down! but i am so grateful for your friendship. you are one of those few friends that i am certain know will be around to the end and i am so grateful for you. and thank you for introducing me to the enneagram! shout out to Mrs Birdsall!! Sarah, i feel so humbled, honoured, blessed for the ways in which you have just opened up your life to me. when we first met as little form 1s at Arundel i would have never imagined this is where we would be 12 years later. my mind can only wonder where life will take us another 12 years from now.

04/23/2022 Sarah and Beau’s very special triple threat party
04/15/2022 nardos & joe duel during our weekend trip to Sharon, CT.
02/13/2022 nardie and i stroll through a 5K in the winter! (we jogged the last 50m to run across the finish line)
07/09/2021 sarah’s bachelorette party

okay. shout out to the office homies Kevin, José, Laura, Eric, Arthur, and Flint. Shout out to Roy, Isaac, Sam, Naima, Nabor, and Alison Joy. the Arundel girls Ropa, Paida & Tarisai. the dinner squad, Mohit, Eunice, Nadia! one of the bestest workmates and sweetest ever, Lou-Ann!! my family – my brother, my sister-in-love Tendai (thank you for loving me so much), my sister, my hubby Regi and most notably the babies!! all my cousins, aunts and uncles, my nieces and nephews – you guys hold my heart in a way no one else could ever. i am certain i am forgetting lots of people who have made the last year notable, but that’s not to say my heart is not grateful. it really is. alright…i am certain i am forgetting lots of people who have made the last year notable, but that’s not to say my heart is not grateful. it really is. alright…

05/29/2021 Arundel gals weekend at Tari’s!
11/25/2021 hosting friendsgiving 🦃
03/01/2022 end of roy’s visit. nardie missed picture time *insert sad emoji*

y’all, i have a whole 25 years of life under my belt now! What a blessing! Cheers to many more fun, youthful, and Jesus-filled years!

now here are a bunch of other pictures i just wanted to include in this post

05/15/2021 dinner clan!
06/04/2021 girls night out
05/21/2021 some more dinner clanning!
06/05/2021 arundel girls brunch at the chestnut café
07/17/2021 homemade chipotle saturday dinner, prepared by yours truly
07/21/2021 nardie and phyllis capturing a beautiful event for beau and sarah
08/01/2021 visiting alison joy and julie in their new apartment in new york
08/17/2021 the one time we actually won trivia at trinity 😂 🥈
09/24/2021 i don’t remember why we laughed at this moment, but i honestly have so many pictures like this with this girl
10/30/2021 i finally took up nardie on her offer to go climbing!
12/04/2021 joe and nardie’s joint birthday party. somebody pls tell me why they’re holding those biscuits like that 😂
12/18/2021 christmas dinner
12/28/2021 my babies colouring 🥰🥰
01/02/2022 mazvikadei dam; isaac trying to teach me to skip rocks
01/02/2022 beautiful pack i picked up – holding a million years of history in my hand
01/04/2022 visiting mhamha mati in chinhoyi
01/15/2022 girls day out
01/20/2022 car ride with mutsa, bea, and dad. poor rudo akasara kumba akarara – you snooze you lose
02/04/2022 tari’s visit to new haven
02/14/2022 nardie and phyllis are the best valentines ever
03/04/2022 phyllis’ crossfit challenge #shedidit
03/16/2022 breakfast with audrey post my upenn visit days
04/15/2022 more of joe & nardie duelling
04/15/2022 i just love these
01/13/2022 me and my gogo ❤️❤️ mai vababa
12/26/2021 look at the smile! isn’t she lovely 😍
01/13/2022 murewa visit to see gogo with dad, tete, and my two boys
01/09/2022 my twin girls at daddy naju’s birthday kuparamount. little sister maita in mainini’s belly
02/12/2022 the girls meet baby sister maita (they’re absolutely obsessed with her)
i do not have a date for this picture, but as you can tell it is pretty cold. this is my grandfather, my father’s father. i know very little about him as i never got to meet him, but this picture makes me feel like i know at least a little
03/16/2022 just me and my day one 📸

2021 Challenge – Day Done!

After 426 days without pork, 395 days without beef, 365 days without chicken, and 335 days without fish, seafood, or any kind of meat at all, I am done with my challenge!

I went to two whole meat-filled weddings and I soldiered on (s/o to Mrs Silin Lee and Mrs Sarah Birdsall!). I am proud of myself but even more than that I am so incredibly grateful for all my friends who have so faithfully walked this journey with me. My friends have all been so kind as to make sure there are vegetarian options whenever I was at their lunch or dinner parties. More often than not they have prepared purely vegetarian meals for my benefit. Every single one of our Saturday dinners has been vegetarian (even vegan in September!). I honestly want to cry thinking about how loving my friends are.

Shout out to Nardos who has been there every single day and step of the way. This girl has essentially just been vegetarian with me this past year! When I told her I was considering extending my vegetarianism she cried out, “No, Joy!” because she knew I’d be taking her down with me. Shout out to Phyllis, one of the best chefs I know, who has prepared such yum dinners, including these incredible plantain boats such with soy meat and, in her words, “!!!”. ~Nardos & Phyllis, best housemates ever~! Shout out to Naima, Theresa, Mohit, Eunice, Nadia, and Joe. These are people who have (regularly) prepared meat-free meals with me in mind. Shout out to all our dinner guests! I think at some point we counted 33 guests this year alone (and 40 since we started hosting).

The end of this challenge has not been the smoothest. I wish it could have been more ceremonious, especially in my own mind. My mind has just been occupied by too many other things. I will try and make a separate life-update post on this, but I have been applying to Ph.D. programs and my first deadline is today. You might also be wondering why I am ending this challenge at the end of November rather than the end of December. Back in June, I booked my flights to go home to Zimbabwe this winter break and I decided then that I did not want to be vegetarian while in Zimbabwe. That meant ending my challenge early, so to try and make up for the lost month, I chose to “double-up” and be vegan for a month. That meant no animal products at all; no dairy and no eggs, which was a big deal since my breakfasts were mostly yoghurt and eggs. I had one major Achilles heel as a vegan, though: the spicy mayo at Pokemoto. I refused to give that up. Otherwise, I put up a real effort. I switched to vegan snacks, got vegan protein powders to supplement my protein intake since it was mostly dairy up to that point, began using vegan baking recipes, etc. So I did that and that was fun. I was ready to go home for carnivore December. Unfortunately, as some of you are aware, many countries, including the US, imposed travel restrictions on southern Africa in the last week due to concerns over the spread of the new Omicron COVID-19 variant, meaning I will not be travelling home this break. I will not be having those sizzling gochi-gochi pork chops after all. This was why I was considering extending my vegetarianism to the end of the year, but I have decided against it. I may not be going home, but I have put in my vegetarian and vegan time, so I will be enjoying my meat again now.

Tonight, I will be going with some friends to bbq chicken, one of my favourite chicken spots, to have some Korean fried chicken and break my “fast”. Mai vangu muera shumba, and it has been a full year since I have had chicken, so the shumba in me is ready to go!

2021 Challenge – Day 60

hello, hello! and welcome to the month of march!

it’s the start of month three of being vegetarian! can you imagine!? i went out to a pizza place with some friends last night and i ate quite a bit of garlic bread and french fries – ya girl is still trying to figure out how to eat out vegetarian lol. today’s post will just be me answering the regular questions – next post will have more updates. truth is, i’m also a little distracted watching shake it up chicago right now, haha. so here we go:

How has the experience been so far? it’s been good. i’ve actually been eating *a lot* over the last two or so weeks – my appetite has been huge! idk what triggered it, but it’s been happening, lol.

Protein: umm… as i said, i had garlic bread and french fries for dinner last night, so i guess one might say i haven’t been doing great in this area. well, i’m not actually doing that bad. according to the app MyFitnessPal, i’m doing quite alright, despite yesterday’s excessive carb consumption. it’s mostly just eggs, protein cereals, and ofc, yoghurt!

Could I see myself remaining vegetarian past December 2021? No, thank you. Next.

Favourite recipe since last post: this banana bread. mine doesn’t come out like that, though. mine looks like banana bars – i’ve made it twice and it never rises, lol (see featured picture). it’s still very yum!

Song recommendation of the day: you might remember my guest from episode 6 of the podcast, Bryan K. one of the songs on the album we talked about on the album, Energy (feat. Tamy Moyo) has been nominated for Best RnB at the Star FM listeners Choice Awards! Come thru for my boy, and vote by clicking this link (it leads you to a WhatsApp chat )

2021 Challenge – Day 35

Well hello there, dear reader!

It’s been over a month since I went 100% vegetarian and so far so good! I am trying to get myself to enjoy eating more beans, so that’s been interesting. I made this very simple canned black bean recipe a few nights ago and I absolutely really enjoyed it – I will definitely be making it again.

I had my first take-out order of vegetarian food on my friend naima’s birthday: vegetable fried rice and avocado sushi from this local Japanese joint called Yamasaki Teriyaki. I always love fried rice so it’s a given i enjoyed that. the avocado sushi was also good, but idk – i’ll probably order it again but once 2022 hits i’m back to my eel & avocado rolls!

I have also recently become a more informed grocery shopper – i learned that if i time the local transit bus just right, i can get to the mall in 30 minutes (same as taking a $20 uber, except for just $1.75) and shop at target or walmart for so much cheaper, instead of our more expensive local grocery store. i love being in cars/moving vehicles so the extended trip time is not a probem for me. when i was a kid my tete (aunt) used to call me “peturu” (petrol) because if a car was driving out of our home, i had to be in it! and what else would i be doing besides binging my favourite comedies in my pyjamas all day anyway in these corona times.

Yeah, so that’s about it. There isn’t really much to report on the vegetarian life side of things.

In other news, I got my second dose of the covid-19 vaccine today (woohoo)!! They say the side effects of the second dose tend to be worse than for the first dose so lets just wait and see. After my first dose I just had a sore arm, like, really sore – i struggled to sleep at night, and the whole situation wasn’t helped by the fact that i tend to lie on my side in order to fall asleep (after which i’ll roll over and either sleep on my back or on my tummy – not that you care much about this minute detail of my life anyway, lol). the pain went away after ~48 hours and that was it for me on the side effects page. i know there’s a lot of concern about the vaccine and fears about getting it, and if you are concerned about it please feel free to reach out to me – it took a lot of thought (and prayer) for me to decide to get the vaccine, so at the very least i can just share my reasoning and how i finally came to my decision. Trust me, summer 2020 me would *not* believe that just half a year later i would be fully vaccinated, lol.

More other news… my college dean just recently alerted me to the fact that i now have an IMDB page (lol!!!), and so does my good friend Sarah Geach. Now Sarah has *so many* creative outlets, so i’ll just drop two here – this one and this one. She’s a gem <3. The movie we are both a part of is a documentary on the late Pauli Murray, the namesake our residential college, and we took part in a discussion on her life and work once and the film producers were around to film that! Then other smaller news: I got a new backpack this last weekend that has made me realise how horrible for my back the old one was, heh!

I am hoping that the podcast will make it’s 2021 debut sometime this month, but who knows. I know consistency is a thing, but i never want the podcast to become a burden for me so episodes will come out when i want them to come out hahaha.

Without further ado, i’ll answer the regular questions (plus one new question):

How has the experience been so far? nothing has changed from last week, really. so far so good, but once 2022 hits i’m eating meat again. i have been surprised, though, by how constricted vegetarian options are. to me it seemed as though so many people were vegetarian that there would be more options at restaurants and stuff but not quite. not that there aren’t many options, i was just expecting more. either i overestimated the vegetarian market coming into this, or the suppliers underestimate vegetarian demand.

Protein: still enjoying my yoghurts. i’m hoping my new friendship with beans will also help a lot here. tbh i’ve been far less obsessed with my protein intake over the last two weeks than i was when i wrote the last post. that might just be because i’m settling into a routine and i more instinctively rather than consciously look for high protein food when i shop/cook.

Could I see myself remaining vegetarian past December 2021? No, thank you. Next.

[updated question] Favourite recipe since last post: y’all, i made myself such a *yummy* beyond burger yesterday. if you aren’t aware, beyond burgers are these imitation burgers which are plant based – but don’t let “plant-based” fool you, they are about as unhealthy as regular burgers lol. i made the patty, fried some onions, added a few slices of iceberg lettuce and tomato, and made a little bit of this sauce (sans the bbq sauce), then slapped all this on two halves of a toasted english muffin. hmm… it was actually “finger-licking good”.

[new unrelated question] song recommendation of the day: this question has just been born out of the fact that i love this song and it’s been playing in my mind for the last few hours. it’s called I Hope You Dance, and it is by Mandisa, an incredibly encouraging artist whom I was actually introduced to in high school by Sarah Geach’s mom. Everytime I listen to it I imagine it as a letter I have written to my future (currently faceless) daughter that she is reading. i magine mandisa herself might have had a similar vision.

As always, hmu if you have thoughts/comments/suggestions.

Until next time, amigos!

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xx QueenJoy

2021 Challenge – Day 21

my last post was almost exactly four months ago!! discipline, amirite??

well, a few nights ago i watched the movie Julie & Julia on Netflix, which if you haven’t watched, i recommend. it’s totally up my lane – cute and feel-goody. anyway, in that movie, julie keeps a blog for 365 days as she takes herself through a cooking challenge. as i watched it i thought “maybe i should keep a blog of my yearly challenges too,” haha. though the blog might not be as exciting as julie’s was, i figured i already had a yearly challenge that i was almost three weeks into so i would definitely have material, and given i had about forty-nine weeks to go, it wouldn’t be too late to start. i had ten million blog posts in my drafts anyway, so this would give me a reason to check on them frequently and potentially promote them from drafts to published posts.

so, here i am on day 21 of my 365-day challenge. “what is the challenge?” you may ask. well, this girl is vegetarian for the year! you heard that right… no meat for a whole year! i’ve had family members ask why such a huge change, especially for someone who comes from a culture where you haven’t had a meal until you’ve had meat. i figure some of them ask out of pity, that maybe i’m too broke to buy meat – lol, i’m trippin’. truth is, i think they ask out of worry that i might go a whole year just plain hungry! p.s., if you are family and you are reading this, don’t worry – i am very well fed.

so… why vegetarianism? it’s an idea i have flirted with through much of my time in college. i’ve been vegetarian for religious fasts, i’ve been vegetarian for a few weeks just for kicks, and once i was even VEGAN for a whole two weeks (i’m never doing that again!). half way through 2020 i realised i had gone the entire year thus far without getting any braids done in my hair or anything of that sort, and so i challenged myself to finish the year like that. upon realising i wanted a new challenge for 2021, vegetarianism came as a no-brainer. this was my chance to see if i had the guts to do this for more than just a couple of weeks. granted the hair thing was eons easier – in fact, i’m still rocking my natural hair (15 months and counting)., i had to try!

i decided to commit pretty early. at the end of september i dropped pork from my diet which was super easy cause i didn’t eat much of it to begin with, and then october saw the end of my beef days, a transition that wasn’t too difficult either. the real challenge came at the end of november. i must admit that on december 2nd, i found two leftover chicken nuggets in my fridge & i did not have the heart to throw them out, so i had them, hehe. and then on december 31st i had my last taste of any sort of meat until 2022 when i got myself a roll of eel & avocado sushe. bye-bye 2020, & bye-bye meat!

now that you have the backstory of what my challenge for the year is, i’ll now tell you what these updates will be all about. i’ll use them let you know what i’ve been eating, share some recipes that i’ve tried and maybe give some reviews, and then i’ll tell you how i’m feeling about the whole shabam. i’ll try come up with regular questions i can answer to track how my feelings may be changing with time, so here’s what i can think of today:

How has the experience been so far? so far so good. i am confident that i can complete the challenge. i’ve realised that now that i’m vegetarian i am far less likely to order take-out cause i just don’t feel like paying a restaurant for vegetables, feel like a rip-off lol! another thing is that after 9 months of cooking for each other every night for dinner, nardos & i have split our groceries and now cook for ourselves, and i feel like a little child! i don’t feel the drive to cook for myself, so if i’m not eating leftovers, i’m probably just having a sandwich for dinner or something dumb like that.

Protein: my go-to has mostly been high-protein yogurts and eggs, but i’ve read in a few places that dairy might not be the best supplement. but hey, i like my eggs and yogurt, so i’ll stick to that for now. i’m also not a big fan of cheese (except on pizza), so that’s another little protein hurdle. i downloaded My Fitness Pal so i could keep track of the nutrients i am consuming and while i’m not doing terrible, i’m not doing great either on the protein.

Could I see myself remaining vegetarian past December 2021? that would be a hard no. are there some great vegetarian recipes and dishes? absolutely yes! but i have to say i miss me some fried chicken.

Favourite recipe so far: well, i actually prepared this in december 2020 when i could still eat fish & seafood, but i made a barley soup which i really liked. i had never had barley before, and i had never liked soups much, but i impressed myself with this one. i even baked my own bread and it was great!

if you have any suggestions for things i could try out, feel free to leave a comment on this post or message me privately! also check out the podcast – i’ve been on an unannounced break for about two months now, but i’ll be back v soon.

hasta luego!

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xx QueenJoy